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Saturday, June 27, 2009

The 90% rule for marriage

You probably like about 90% of what your spouse is and does.

(If you figure out how to quantify this, let me know.)

Otherwise you probably wouldn't have married her/him in the first place. So, here's a rule to follow.

Be sure to praise, thank, or tell her/him about her dimple, his pleasing tone of voice, how well he fixes bouquets, how conscientiously she mows the grass, how carefully he keeps the checkbook, how well she fixed the bathroom leak, etc. -- in other words, something from the 90%, at least nine times, sincerely -- mean it -- for every complaint.

Try it. I'm going to try it, too. In fact, it's a life-long commitment.

That's probably part of 1 Corinthians 13 in action.

Thanks for reading.


Keetha Broyles said...

Hmmmm - - - from your list you have all of the things I do with a "he" in front of them and Greg's with a "she." WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!?!


Martin LaBar said...

It means that I'm trying to avoid stereotyping the genders.

Thanks for reading.

Katherine said...

Great idea. Thanks for the encouragement to do the right thing and make our marriages flourish with joy and peace!!!

Martin LaBar said...

Thanks, Katherine!