Bathsheba: 2 Samuel 11:1 At the return of the year, at the
time when kings go out, David sent Joab, and his servants with him, and all
Israel; and they destroyed the children of Ammon, and besieged Rabbah. But
David stayed at Jerusalem. 2 At evening, David arose from his bed and
walked on the roof of the king’s house. From the roof, he saw a woman bathing,
and the woman was very beautiful to look at. 3 David sent and inquired
after the woman. One said, “Isn’t this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, Uriah
the Hittite’s wife?” 4 David sent messengers, and took her; and she came in
to him, and he lay with her (for she was purified from her uncleanness); and
she returned to her house. 5 The woman conceived; and she sent and told
David, and said, “I am with child.” 6 David sent to Joab, “Send me Uriah the Hittite.” Joab
sent Uriah to David. 7 When Uriah had come to him, David asked him how
Joab did, and how the people fared, and how the war prospered. 8 David
said to Uriah, “Go down to your house and wash your feet.” Uriah departed out
of the king’s house, and a gift from the king was sent after him. 9 But
Uriah slept at the door of the king’s house with all the servants of his lord,
and didn’t go down to his house. 10 When they had told David, saying,
“Uriah didn’t go down to his house,” David said to Uriah, “Haven’t you come
from a journey? Why didn’t you go down to your house?”
11 Uriah said to David, “The ark, Israel, and Judah,
are staying in tents; and my lord Joab and the servants of my lord, are
encamped in the open field. Shall I then go into my house to eat and to drink,
and to lie with my wife? As you live, and as your soul lives, I will not do
this thing!”
12 David said to Uriah, “Stay here today also, and
tomorrow I will let you depart.” So Uriah stayed in Jerusalem that day, and the
next day. 13 When David had called him, he ate and drank before him; and
he made him drunk. At evening, he went out to lie on his bed with the servants
of his lord, but didn’t go down to his house. 14 In the morning, David wrote
a letter to Joab, and sent it by the hand of Uriah. 15 He wrote in the
letter, saying, “Send Uriah to the forefront of the hottest battle, and retreat
from him, that he may be struck, and die.”
16 When Joab kept watch on the city, he assigned Uriah
to the place where he knew that valiant men were. 17 The men of the city
went out, and fought with Joab. Some of the people fell, even of David’s
servants; and Uriah the Hittite died also. 18 Then Joab sent and told
David all the things concerning the war; 19 and he commanded the
messenger, saying, “When you have finished telling all the things concerning
the war to the king, 20 it shall be that, if the king’s wrath arise, and
he asks you, ‘Why did you go so near to the city to fight? Didn’t you know that
they would shoot from the wall? 21 Who struck Abimelech the son of
Jerubbesheth? Didn’t a woman cast an upper millstone on him from the wall, so
that he died at Thebez? Why did you go so near the wall?’ then you shall say,
‘Your servant Uriah the Hittite is also dead.’”
22 So the messenger went, and came and showed David all
that Joab had sent him for. 23 The messenger said to David, “The men
prevailed against us, and came out to us into the field, and we were on them
even to the entrance of the gate. 24 The shooters shot at your servants
from off the wall; and some of the king’s servants are dead, and your servant
Uriah the Hittite is also dead.”
25 Then David said to the messenger, “Tell Joab, ‘Don’t
let this thing displease you, for the sword devours one as well as another.
Make your battle stronger against the city, and overthrow it.’ Encourage him.”
26 When Uriah’s wife heard that Uriah her husband was
dead, she mourned for her husband. 27 When the mourning was past, David
sent and took her home to his house, and she became his wife, and bore him a
son. But the thing that David had done displeased Yahweh.
Bathsheba gave birth to the child, but the child died.
2 Samuel 12:24 David comforted Bathsheba his wife, and
went in to her, and lay with her. She bore a son, and he called his name
Solomon. Yahweh loved him; 25 and he sent by the hand of Nathan the
prophet, and he named him Jedidiah, [which means “loved by Yahweh”] for Yahweh’s
sake.
Later on, long enough that David expected Solomon to become
king in his place, Bathsheba agreed to speak to David for Adonijah, who was
expecting to be king. See the post about Abishag for more on this story.
Back to the beginning of the Bathsheba story. Is it possible
that she was bathing where she knew David could see her? Was it a common practice
to bathe on the roof top? Should David have been at war, rather than resting in
Jerusalem? Did Bathsheba submit willingly, or did David rape her? Did she
gladly become David’s wife? What was her relationship with David’s other wives? Why
didn’t she tell Adonijah that she wouldn’t speak for him? (See the post on Abishag. Possibly because she
had promised to do so before she knew what he wanted.) We don’t know any of
these answers.
33 comments:
Lizabeth
However, I do take exception to your statement, "God is not ever unfair." He is BLESSEDLY unfair, or else He would allow us all to suffer the due penalty of our own sin. Instead, He most unfairly paid the penalty for our sin and just as unfairly imputed to us the righteousness of Christ.
:-D
Now you have more readers!!!
Yes, that was my point, superrustyfly.
ClassyChassy, I wasn't bold. I doubt seriously if anyone who believes homosexual activity is compatible with God's will will even read this blog. I hope I did put forward the main scriptural reason why it is sinful, as well as some stern admonishment for those who believe that, as some say, "God hates fags," except that they won't read this, either. Oh, well.
Thanks, Keetha!
I most definitely want to hear more on this topic as you have time to research and think through this complicated issue. I have a close friend that is openly gay who I grew up with. He is still a friend and a good one at that, but I question how to deal with and accept his sexual preference choices. Your guidelines are informative and I appreciate them.
I'd also like to add that I completely disagree with the notion that there is a genetic basis for homosexuality. Much research has been done on this for years and nothing has come of it. The only bit of supporting evidence I've ever heard is the information you presented regarding prenatal hormones - and I doubt that will make much of an impact compared to upbringing and personal choices.
Oh, and you might explicitly include the David and Jonathan verses where David loves Jonathan that some include as a depiction of homosexuality. It's the passage where Jonathan shoots arrows and what says is code for David to flee or stay.
I didn't include the passages about David and Jonathan, or the one where John is described as the disciple Jesus loved, or the one on the rich young ruler. In the first place, I was looking only for verses that are against homosexual activity, not those that might support it. In the second place, I don't think any of these incidents were related to sexual activity at all -- as C. S. Lewis pointed out, there's more than one Greek word for "love," and it's too bad that that isn't true of English, also. Only one of those words has to do with sexual attraction, as I understand it, where, in English, we seem to have moved to where "love" means "sex," often without much love, in our minds.
David, of course, had several wives, and children, and his most glaring sin was related to his lusting after Bathsheba's body. He certainly wasn't an exclusive homosexual, and I don't believe that he was a homosexual at all.
Thanks again.
I've read a few of your blogs and believe that you are well-studied, fair, and open-minded in your posts as well as comment responses.
I am a homosexual male. I feel like I was born like this, but I suppose I'll never know for sure... I am also a practicing Catholic and come from a very conservative background. It should then be no surprise that when I discovered this about me, I did everything in my power to "change" myself. I believed there was something wrong with me. Everything I did to fight it led to more pain, and as a result, anger - especially with God. (This anger is no more... I understand that God gives everyone different challenges and trials through which to work.)
My entire story would be a book so I'll summarize here. I became aware of my homosexuality at 16, fought it for approximately 8 years, and began dating and learning about the "gay lifestyle" at 24. I'm 31 now.
As I stated earlier, I believe you to be fair. I also believe you well-intentioned. So I wanted to ask you to pray and reflect on this question - After much reflection on my part, I believe with all my heart that two men or two women together in a loving relationship is not morally wrong. I believe God loves those couples and does not disaprove. If I am wrong, why do I still feel with all my heart that I am not? Wouldn't God find a way to convince me I am wrong?
I believe I can speak fairly objectively in my belief. Though I am gay, currently, I am not dating. After much reflection, I feel relationships are not good for me. I seem to be happiest being single. This fact, however, does not impact my belief about homosexual relationships...
I am a teacher so I will refrain from posting my full name. I trust you understand. Also, if there is anything you would like to know about me or just wish to engage in a thoughtful discussion on the topic, I am willing. It would just have to be outside of a public blog. Thank you for your time.
David
I will try to pray for you and your situation. Let me try to respond.
Unfortunately, our hearts can mislead us. as Genesis 6:5, Jeremiah 11:8, and many other Bible verses indicate. As Jeremiah 17:9 put it: "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" (KJV) As I indicated in my post, I believe that the Bible has enough on this, especially the emphasis throughout it on heterosexual marriage as the norm, and blessed by God, to convince us of God's ideas on the subject, regardless of our own hearts.
As I understand the Bible, you should not be in a sexual relationship with someone, regardless of your homosexual tendencies.
I sympathize with you, and understand that I may be wrong in anything I have said about this issue. Also, I know that I am not looking at this in the same way you do, that is, from the standpoint of a person who is sexually attracted to a person of their own sex.
I'm sorry, but I don't think I have any special expertise in this area, and don't think that I could be of more help in this.
God help you. He loves you.
Thanks for your comment.
2) Gay men are generally characterised as being more promiscuous then heterosexual men. I don't know much about gay culture, but I gather that the characterisation is probably true.
However, isn't this more down to the fact that men in general are more promiscuous than women? Straight men's promiscuity is limited by the women they can hook up with. Gay men don't have this limitation.
The evidence for this is that when straight men get rich or famous, they find it a lot easier to get women, and they tend to become as promiscuous as gay men.
The other factor is that gay men cannot marry. We're always being told that marriage stabilises people, encourages them to stick out relationships. I don't know if this is true, but if it is, would it not follow that denying gays the ability to marry would effectively be encouraging promiscuity?
This is similar to the fallacy that pigs are dirty creatures, therefore we keep them in muddy styes, which makes them dirty, reinforcing our original misconception. In other words, people say gays are too promiscuous to marry (an institution we believe discourages promiscuity), and then the same people point to all the promiscuous unmarried gay people as evidence.
Andrew - ar@wlv.ac.uk
My reaction to the Archbishop is that it is possible to be a Biblical scholar and still deny what the Bible says. Whether that's what the Archbishop is doing, I don't know. It is possible, of course, that I am mis-reading the Bible. But I read it as indicating that homosexual sexual activity, even within a long-term relationship, is not God's best plan for humans, and is sinful.
In the US, and probably elsewhere, churches have sanctioned heterosexual marriages when not all such should be sanctioned, for any number of reasons, including immaturity of the partners, lack of real commitment to each other, and the partners not having any other relationship with the church. Ideally, I think the church should sanction a lot fewer marriages than the state allows, and that would be true if there were no such thing as homosexuality. However, that's not the way we do it, and I think the church sanctions a lot of heterosexual marriages that God doesn't.
I'm not sure that I oppose state-sanctioned marriage between homosexual partners, for some of the reasons you give, and for fairness -- why should a homosexual caregiver who would have been a spouse if homosexual marriage were allowed, be denied hospital visiting rights, for example?
But a God-sanctioned marriage has to be between a man and a woman, who are committed to each other, and to God, as I understand the Bible. Therefore, I oppose church-sanctioned marriages between homosexual partners.
Thanks for your comment.
A reply I've heard a couple of times is that those are OT passages, and that if they took such passages literally they'd also have to also take literally all the passages that condoned slavery. (Googling 'bible condones slavery' brings up many examples).
Is it not special pleading to reject those 'pro-slavery' passages, but not do the same for the 'anti-gay' parts?
It is, indeed, dangerous to specially plead for something. Perhaps I, and other Christians, have done so in the matter of homosexuality.
It is also dangerous to say that we know better than the Bible.
As I read the New Testament, it isn't pro-slavery, but it accepts slavery, and some other things, such as the inferior status of women in Jewish society, as part of the culture. Christ didn't come so much to re-make culture (He didn't defeat the Romans!) as to re-make people, one at a time. Some Roman soldiers became His followers. A long time later, Christians led the fight to defeat slavery, relying, I guess, on their sense that it was wrong. They had some Biblical support. There's the Golden Rule -- they didn't want to be slaves, so why should anyone else have to be? There are also as admonitions, in both Testaments, to be just to the poor, and slaves were (and are) as poor as you can get.
My response to your question about the Old Testament is two-fold.
First, the Bible is much more a pro-heterosexuality book than it is an anti-homosexuality book, and this includes the New Testament, through Revelation.
Second, saying that the New Testament doesn't touch on homosexuality is just plain wrong. I referenced either five or six (depending on how you count) passages that deal with it in my post.
Thanks again.
Andrew, UK.
David
Evil.
I don't have the energy at the moment to fully argue this article, and although I do think you are ignorant of what exactly you're saying, and so I forgive you; it is evil and it is bigotry.
If what I said was evil, I'm sorry. It is also true that heterosexuals have done some nasty things to children who were their responsibility in church children's work.
Homosexual tendencies mean that a person is sexually attracted to someone, or several someones, of the same sex as they are. And, yes, this is a form of temptation.
As to your hypothetical question, that's a tough one. I guess I'd agree with you that homosexual marriage is not recognized by God, so this wouldn't be the same as divorce. And I would further state that it is important to get out of a relationship or situation that is sinful right away. But I can also see that there might be legal or moral ties between a homosexual couple, for example they might own a house jointly, or they might have agreed to share expenses, or a pet, in some way. In such cases, just as with a divorce between heterosexuals, more than a mere sexual relationship is involved, and separating might involve temptations to deceive or be greedy or slanderous in the process.
Thank you for your blog posts! They are very insightful!
I recently wrote a blog comment in response to your entry on homosexuality last year (the one on June 12, 2009). I am a "newbie" when it comes to arguments on homosexuality. If you have the time, please read it over--it would be greatly appreciated!
I read and commented on the other comment.
I replied back to your comment from the June 12, 2009 comment. I also wanted to you know that from here on out, I will post to this more recent blog post if I want to reply back.
Thanks again,
Callie (that is my online pen name)
By the way, Blogger (this is a Blogger blog) sends any comments to the blog author as e-mail, so it doesn't matter where you comment.
I find your implication that a homosexual person should not be trusted with young people to be offensive and inaccurate.
I am sure your words were well-intentioned, but remarks such as those you made about this subject undermine your credibility.
I stand corrected. Not all people with homosexual tendencies are paedophiles.
Some are, if I understand recent tragic scandals in the Roman Catholic church.
Do you mean with our without receiving the redemptive work of the cross in their lives.For I have heard testamony of men who are now happily married and living lives sold out for Christ. could you please clarify your answer?
As you have indicated, there have been cases of practicing homosexuals who have become apparently happy practicing heterosexuals. I'm sure that the redemptive power of God was involved, as well as their own choice.
However, I doubt if that would be possible for all individuals. At least some people seem to be homosexual because their hormones make them so. You have probably had the same experience that I have, while watching TV. I have heard some men speak, and said to myself, something like "That sounds like a homosexual," and, it turned out that the person was, indeed, a homosexual. There seems to be a strong biological tendency, in some people, to be homosexual. God could overcome that, but, just as He doesn't choose to make all believers with Down syndrome into college professors, or all blind believers sighted, He doesn't seem to choose to change everyone's sexual orientation.
I believe that a Christian can be a fulfilled, happy, celibate. There are seem to be many examples of such, such as, for example, many protestant female missionaries, and Catholic nuns (most of whom would not have chosen to be homosexual, if such a choice were somehow allowable under God). This can be true whether the person's biological inclination is to be homosexual or heterosexual. I am thankful that, for most of my life, I have not been so called -- I have been happily married to a good woman -- and I hope I have some appreciation for those who have been called to celibacy for a significant portion of their lives, or all of them.
As I say, I'm not convinced that all practicing homosexuals can become satisfied practicing heterosexuals. I have no statistics on this, and no Biblical proof, but I still believe it, based on what I know of biology, and of how God deals with various other types of infirmity. I am convinced that, with the help of God, both heterosexuals and homosexuals can become, or remain, celibate.